Ten Nonnegotiable Rules for Student Safety in Churches

by Sam Rainer President & Senior Consultant

Student ministry is often where rules about minors break down in the church. Student ministries don’t need fewer rules than children’s ministries. They need different rules. Though rebellion seems to be a rite of passage for many teenagers, they are far more receptive to guidance than you might think. Young people need leaders to shoot straight with them. About life. With biblical depth. We don’t need to wade in the shallows and soft peddle the Christian faith. Instead, we must shepherd our youth through the depths of Scripture and the valleys of life. Be clear and honest with them.

One sure way to confuse the younger generation is to set expectations and then not hold anyone accountable. A lack of transparency from adults is frustrating to teenagers. The younger generation tends to follow leaders who are transparent rather than distant or detached. And they want to know they’re not alone in their struggles. Consider the following best practices for building better student safety systems in our churches.

1. Never alone applies to teens as well.

As in children’s ministry, leaders, staff members, and volunteers should always have a third party present when meeting with a student. This rule applies to vehicle rides as well. If a situation requires one-on-one counseling, meet in a room with a camera, leave the door slightly ajar, and make sure another responsible adult is nearby. There may be times when you end up alone with a student unintentionally. For example, parents might be late picking up their teen, and you’re the only one available to stay until they arrive. In such a case, contact the parents and inform them of the situation. If the parents are unavailable, contact another church leader.

2. Report any reasonable…